That’s So Called Expectation

It hurts us more than anything else..maybe 😬 most of the times we hurt ourself more than other people does. Because we set some expectations. When that doesn’t happen, we feel betrayed. It’s a normal thing. Happens everywhere, every time, to everyone...mostly I guess. Of course there’s a cause why we expect certain things from someone. It may come from his / her value in your life, it may come naturally as he / she usually does certain things, it can come from anywhere really. Sometimes, it doesn’t affect anything to us, when the dosage is right. But when the expectations keep climbing to be higher or we expect something that’s not realistic, it could be dangerous. We could be hurting ourself, and the other person. We feel betrayed, and the other person feel he / she’s blamed but no clue what they did wrong. A very ineffective and destructive situation. I feel like I have been in both sides. I expected something, it didn’t happen, and I got hurt. The other time, my friend expected me to do something, I did’t, and I didn’t feel I made a mistake. One “problem” from different point of view. Sometimes the other person really has no clue what happens. Or realize what happens but don’t feel obligated to do as expected. Different perspective, different way of thinking, etc. There’s no one to blame, this is the wist me speaking. It hurts, like hell sometimes. And of course you need time to heal after such a fall. But then maybe, it could be a great lesson for what comes after. How to set our expectation, how to manage our thoughts and feeling, how to handle the worse possibilities, how to heal ourself and see the world with wiser eyes. Not for other people. But for us as a person first. Hopefully when we grow, other people will see and feel the good affect from it. Let’s never stop growing 💕